It’s 8am. There I am standing face to face with the man I spend the most time with for the third time today. The tall slender bright and bushy man in my life. Meet broom. We spend a lot of time together. More time than the man I married. We dance in the morning, afternoon, and when everyone’s gone to bed. We dream of shiny clean floors and a world where crumbs simply disappear. Ohhh, broom. Sweet broom. Without you I’d be drowning in a sea of cherrios, garlic skins, lettuce pieces, and crunched up goldfish. I’m not sure my husband even knows you exist. I wouldn’t mind if he did. Our relationship is so unique. At 7am when you come out for the first time, I appreciate you. By 10am and our fourth encounter, I resent you. Again? REALLY? Wow. As Taylor Swift would say. You need to calm down. But by 8pm when the house is all quite and clean, I adore you. Thank you broom for doing what the vacuum can’t when children are fast asleep. Thank you broom for saving my feet. Thank you for rescuing me from embarrassment when a surprise guest shows up at the door. You’ve swept me off my feet, you complete me.
When my daughter was about 18 months, I began to notice the typical dreaded toddler behaviors come out. We went through a biting phase, a hitting phase, a “no” phase, you name we probably went through it. I thought I would know what to do when this happened but to my surprise, I had no fucking clue. In order to look for some sort of magic “make your child and angel” template I got to googling, listening to parenting pod casts and reading (mostly listening) to as many books as I could.
One thing that was commonly recommended to try was time out. I have nothing against time out or those who implement it, however, I just felt it wasn’t right for Savanna. I was at a crossroads. I had been trying out the REI method where you basically talk to you kids and tell them not to do things in a respectful way. It worked sometimes but honestly, sometimes it just didn’t do the job. Like when I’d tell my daughter ” I won’t let you hit me’ after smacking me in the face only to have her do it 10 times over. Yea, not happening. I needed a mother solution that was in between that and time out. Cue the calm down chair.
The calm down chair was an idea I thought I came up with but turns out I was like the last to think of it. Here’s how we use it. When our daughter is on the brink of having a meltdown or behaving in an inappropriate way, we give her the chance to self regulate, regroup, and choose again by having her sit in the calm down chair. We put a special chair in the kitchen that is easily accessible from anywhere in our house. When necessary, we tell her it’s time to sit in her chair and count 10 breaths. Surprisingly, she caught on to this super fast. She never fought us going there, never tried to get up. In the beginning we would sit with her and breath. Now she actually takes her self there, counts her breaths and says all better when she’s done. And she is emotionally and physically better! She even tells us to take breaths sometimes! I really liked this idea because I felt that teaching her to take a step back in tough moments is a valuable life skill that I’m pretty sure I didn’t learn until it was too late in life!
There’s so much you can do with the calm down chair concept as kids grow. It builds a solid foundation for teaching mindfulness to children. As my daughter is able to understand more, I plan on created a calm down corner. If you google this, you will find awesome ideas, printouts, and photos of how to help children identify feelings and choose coping skills. We recently made some calm down jars to have by the chair and I would like to get some pinwheels and other sensory toys. However, she doesn’t really use that when she’s in distress. For now, the simpler the better. The calm down chair may not be the cure to all meltdowns, but it is making year 2 that much sweeter.
Breast feeding is no easy feet. I remember after having my daughter, I thought it was something that just happened and kept happening. Your baby gets hungry, your boobs make milk, baby eats, baby is happy, repeat. Turns out it is not that simple. With this being my second go around ( and struggling with supply issues with my first), I decided to grab breast feeding by the tits and go all in. Here’s what I’ve been doing to keep that white gold flowing.
- Essentia: This water is truly living up to its claim as overachieving H20. I noticed that when I don’t drink at least a liter or more of it a day, my milk output is less. I try to drink 30-80 ounces of it a day in addition to other liquids.
- Brewers Yeast: This is a classic recommendation that I jumped on the band wagon for. Again I’m not sure what to give credit to or if it’s actually helping, but it’s something I’m including in smoothies or an excuse for cookies.
- Celery Juice: I started drinking this 3 days after giving birth. I wanted to see what all the hype was about. I read that it helps to purify breastmilk and rid my body of toxins. I definitely think this is helping with my anxiety. I feel so much more confident, relaxed and level headed (when I’m not super tired!), compared to after my first pregnancy.
- Earth Mama Tea: Not the best tasting, but good with honey and I feel like this does help keep my supply steady.
- Spirulina: A super food claiming to be good for your boobie juice. I’ve been throwing it into smoothies with banana, dates, and berries.
- More fruits and veggies, less meat: According to Medical Medium, a diet low in carbs and high in fat and protein is actually harmful to breastmilk. Breast milk is made of mostly sugar. Healthy carbs likes potatoes, fruit, and some beans, give your baby the fuel he needs. I’ve really cut out my meat intake to see how it makes me feel. I really like eating this way and it’s a good way to get back into. a healthy routing.
- When I started eating more fruit and veggies I felt like I needed some protein. I’ve been using OWYN protein powder for shakes for breakfast or throughout the day. I did try Truvani Organic protein with hopes this would be so great. To be honest, I wasn’t thrilled with the taste and it made the baby and I so gassy I couldn’t even put a dent in the $60 bag of that fart powder.
Since you are reading this, I’m assuming you’ve googled “how to increase milk supply” as many times as I have. Some of the things I’m trying are results of my googling and others are just what I feel is working for me. Sadly, I don’t think there’s any way to get volcanic milk eruption over night. I’ve found the best results by listening to my gut and doing what feels good. Maybe some of these things will help you and if they don’t at least you’ll be spared the gas of Truvani protein powder!
With my first attempt at breast feeding I made it to 5 months. At about 3 months in my supply started to drop. Once I had to supplement, because my daughter was eating like a teenager, I didn’t see the point in continuing to pump that milk. I felt like I should continue, but I know in my heart it wasn’t best at that point. Also, I was tired and wanted to sleep! I give so much credit to those who do breast feed for a year or more!
This time around, I feel so much more comfortable with doing what’s best. We are breast feeding now, but if it doesn’t work out I am absolutely fine with that because I know it will be what’s best for me and my son. With my daughter, I felt like I had no freaking clue what I was doing and everyone I consulted had a different answer. There was not clear answers when I looked for help or direction with my questions like, “When do I start pumping?”,”A I pumping long enough?”, “Is she eating frequently enough?”, “What do you mean I have to keep up my supply? Doesn’t it just keep flowing out??”. Ughh it was very confusing. Continue reading “No Bake Lactation Balls”
I am what you call a self proclaimed stroller snob. Since I was pregnant with my daughter, I became obsessed with strollers and learning about each one on the market. I wanted to know what the difference was between these hundreds of strollers and what all the hoopla was with those that require a second mortgage. Everywhere we went my eyes would find strollers like magnets. Just like every baby product, it seems like there is a new stroller or updated model every other month! I’ve learned a lot but there is still so much to keep up with.
Along with my stroller addiction have come the purchases of the Chicco Key Fit Caddy, Baby Jogger running stroller, City Mini, and Uppababy Vista. All of these served great purpose but my utmost favorite was the Uppababy. I was walking by a garage sale one day and my stroller magnet eyes did not fail me. They beamed right to a shiny Uppababy Vista with toddler seat and bassinet. I immediately walked up the yard thinking it would be too expensive. Believe it or not, I walked away with that stroller which retailed for $900 at the time for a whopping $75 dollars. I was on cloud nine.
I loved having the bassinet option for my newborn as we took frequent walks in the summer. As I got to know this prized stroller more I realized it was about a 2010 or earlier model. However, even being over 7 years old, it was my favorite stroller. The joy of the Vista is that it can be converted into a double stroller with the purchase of a second seat and attachments. Turns out this model most likely doesn’t work with the second seat. I knew I’d need to purchase another stroller for when baby 2 came along.
Even though my heart belongs to the Uppababy Vista, I ended up going a different route for the double stroller! See, a brand new Vista with second seat and any extra attachments will run you well over 1200 dollars. That’s not always an easy purchase. I looked into purchasing a used one. There are tons of great deals on used Vistas. Then one day a dear friend (who is so savy with the baby stuff and actually the one who came up withe the name Hotmess to Homemade) sent me a text about a 30% off deal on the Baby Jogger City Select. I did like this stroller and was happy with the other baby joggers I owned. I didn’t look into it because I thought it didn’t come with the bassinet. But guess what, it does!
I immediately researched the different models and ended up going with the City Select Lux (of course the most expensive). The reason being is that this model comes with a bench seat attachment that I thought would be great for my stroller hating 2 year old. It was purchased from Albeebaby.com (frequently has 30% off) and shipped very quickly. Of course we had to give it a whirl right away. Here’s what we learned:
- Super easy put together
- Easy maneuvering
- Looks similar to Uppababy
- Bench seat attachment is unique and great for bigger ones
- Hand break that is helpful when going down hill
- Easy to clean fabric
- Large under space for storage
- Zipper pockets on back of seats for storing small items
- Heavy! This is definitely heavier than the Uppababy even with just one baby. I almost went into labor pushing this bad boy up hill.
- The tires are nice that they don’t ever need air, but it feels like it isn’t as smooth of a ride as it could be
- It’s longer than the Uppababy, but not too inconvenient.
I haven’t yet used this with the car seat attachment or bassinet but I am thinking it will be relatively easy to set up. The Lux model does have a zipper on the back of the seats for storage, but I am thinking I will need the cup holder/storage attachment because we use it frequently. Overall, I think this is a good deal for the money. However, if you have the extra to spend on the Uppababy I’d go with that. It would make most sense to purchase either stroller for your first child and just be able to add on as your family grows!
Savanna Says: 8 out of 10
Don’t get me wrong, there are so many adorable shoes out there for little ones. When your child begins to actually need shoes it can be overwhelming to choose the right ones. I had not idea that there was such thing as “first walkers” for babies or that those cute clearance shoes at target actually make it harder for my baby to walk and are actually crap.
After buying a ton of shoes that I thought would be great, I learned that they were not very practical for my daughter. I walked into a local kids shoe store one day and saw shoes I had never even heard of! These shoes for babies are like those shoes for seniors, except way cuter. Many of the brands in this store were labeled as being suitable for first time walkers, supportive of the foot and comfortable.
We went with PediPeds and I’m on my 2nd pair of sneakers! These shoes are not the cheapest, but they last. The quality is great and they really helped my daughter with walking and figuring out how to manage her feet. Did you know that the proper toddler shoe actually is supposed to curve up in the front raising the toes slightly? Yea, as anyone can see by the paper thin amazon shoes I originally got her I had no idea.
You can sign up on the Pediped website found here for 15% off of your first order. Even better, here you can find the Pediped outlet site! In New Jersey, there is a store call Jay’s Shoe Box in Denville which seems to be one of the last surviving kids shoe stores. They will measure your child’s foot, have a great selection and offer that you can exchange shoes if they don’t fit when it gets to the season you are buying them for. The store usually has 5 dollar off coupons that are provided after a purchase as well. Of course, everyone needs some of those cheaper shoes in their wardrobe, but these are great to add in a few quality pairs that will get you through a whole season and more.
Savanna Says: These are a 9!
I’m not sure why, but I’ve really been digging lentil soup lately. There are so many fantastic ways to customize your own batch of lentil goodness. Sometimes I add curry powder and sweet potato for a twist. However, being pregnant has caused to me to veer in the opposite direction of those ingredients. Here’s a simple version you can cook a batch of on the weekend and enjoy all week. Try making it your own by adding in whatever veggies you have on hand. Also, a great way to sneak some of that valuable nutrition into baby! Continue reading “Tomato Lentil Soup”