Lifestyle

Lessons from Life in Quarantine

It’s been an exceptionally unusual  few months to say the very least. Within days, Americans went from commuting to inner city 9 to 5s and after-hours lavish happy hours to commuting to the living room and hoarding every roll of toilet paper within a 20 mile radius.  Overnight parents added “Homeschool Teacher” to their resumes and millions applied for unemployment due to uncontrollable job losses.  Use of the term “new normal” is becoming obnoxiously routine and a crude reminder that things really are upside down right now.

This is weird, it’s different, it’s scary and there is so much that is unknown at this point. 

In order to combat the panic and keep myself from spiraling into a nervous breakdown, I  realized there has to be something I can learn here. If there’s anything life has taught me so far it’s that there is a lesson in each and every part of our lives. Each day brings at least one lesson. All you have to is show up and be willing to listen.  So far, I’ve gotten an ivy league education with a concentration in life.

Value

Looking out at the world, I find it so interesting how things that once were crucially important such as paying your bills and mortgage on time, travel, who has the best pictures on instagram, filling your calendar with events actually hold no value. Everyday is new, which is fun in a weird way.

Patience

I have two children, 9 months and almost 3. Patience and calm are two concepts I always thought I understood. Well, they proved me wrong. They both have actually exceeded my expectations of patience. While working from home I am sincerely impressed by my almost 3 year old’s ability to entertain herself. It’s as if she knows when I’m busy and that when I am done we will play. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had plenty of zoom meetings where the video is off, sound muted. For the majority, she has done a great job. This taught me to be more patient and “go with the flow”. I didn’t know it, but I really needed that.

Calm

For the past month, I have been repeating to myself ” Slow down in order to speed up”. “Do less and attract more”. All Gabby Bernstein’s best mantras. Some days I feel like I just cannot physically slow my body and mind at the same time. However, when I do, it’s wonderful. Having to prioritize work and fit it into my children’s schedule has shown me how to be more efficient. Like I said, there is so much out of our control right now. Rushing, worrying, and over doing are just signs I’m trying to control an outcome. I’ve decided to take full advantage of the slower paced life and sit down when I can. Like really sit. Mediation and reading are my nightly routine. My schedule doesn’t always work out, but this has helped me become more flexible as well.

Work

There is so much happening in the world right now. People are loosing jobs, and bending over backwards just to get food on the table. I am beyond grateful for my job and my husbands, but I have recently learned to see a bigger picture. We base everything around our jobs.  This often includes one’s identity, schedules, vacations, kids, doctors appointments, dinner times, daily routines, and sometimes personal well being. When the pandemic hit it was relieving to see big companies suspending payments and the government lending help. It was bazaar to think “So a week a go you would have a bad credit score and endless creditors searching for you if a bill goes past due, but now they have the heart to forget it all?” I hope we all can hold on to the vision of what really matters after all of this.

Joy

Each day has its trials and tribulations. Working from home and staying home is different for many of us. Being away from family and scared to hug loved ones is just unnatural. Instead of continuing to focus on all I can’t do right now, I shifted my focus to what I can do and turned on my gratitude lenses. Every evening I write down or go through what I am grateful for. Recently, when I’ve found myself in a funk or negative spiral I talk myself out of it by listing what I’m grateful for. It looks like this, ” Wait a minute Cara, this is your ego talking! Turn it around.” It has been extremely helpful. Doing things that bring me joy or I’d be to busy to do has become a regular ritual. Even if it’s small, doing an activity like exercise, writing, giving to others, making a dream board, coloring, etc. brings in great joy and those feel good feelings.

One day this will be a memory. Until then, we can all stay as positive as possible spreading love and joy one person at a time. We got this!

 

 

 

Lifestyle

PediPed Shoe Review

Don’t get me wrong, there are so many adorable shoes out there for little ones. When your child begins to actually need shoes it can be overwhelming to choose the right ones. I had not idea that there was such thing as “first walkers” for babies or that those cute clearance shoes at target actually make it harder for my baby to walk and are actually crap.

After buying a ton of shoes that I thought would be great, I learned that they were not very practical for my daughter. I walked into a local kids shoe store one day and saw shoes I had never even heard of! These shoes for babies are like those shoes for seniors, except way cuter. Many of the brands in this store were labeled as being suitable for first time walkers, supportive of the foot and comfortable.

We went with PediPeds and I’m on my 2nd pair of sneakers! These shoes are not the cheapest, but they last. The quality is great and they really helped my daughter with walking and figuring out how to manage her feet. Did you know that the proper toddler shoe actually is supposed to curve up in the front raising the toes slightly? Yea, as anyone can see by the paper thin amazon shoes I originally got her I had no idea.

You can sign up on the Pediped website found here for 15% off of your first order. Even better, here you can find the Pediped outlet site! In New Jersey, there is a store call Jay’s Shoe Box in Denville which seems to be one of the last surviving kids shoe stores. They will measure your child’s foot, have a great selection and offer that you can exchange shoes if they don’t fit when it gets to the season you are buying them for. The store usually has 5 dollar off coupons that are provided after a purchase as well. Of course, everyone needs some of those cheaper shoes in their wardrobe, but these are great to add in a few quality pairs that will get you through a whole season and more.

Savanna Says: These are a 9!

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